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No flirting zone

The Flirtation
Yeah, I so can't do the whole flirtation thing. I really REALLY shouldn't even try. (Image via Wikipedia)

So now we’ve established that I am dismal at flirting, and more generally at using body language to send signals that anyone could be reasonably expected to understand.

Having already hidden from any new man I’m interested in, and attracted the ones I’m afraid of, now let’s rachet up the failure by sending false signals to men I’m friends with, too. Continue reading “No flirting zone”


Financial machismo

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The boy is not making any meaningful strides in the great mortgage application debacle, but he’s retaining his sanity. For the most part. Other than a stated desire to drink like a fish on the weekends.

I call him on my way home, and tell him I’m getting ready for my visit. I’m standing in front of the ATM, with the din of the grocery store all around me, and I ask him idly how much cash I should bring with me. Continue reading “Financial machismo”


Are you an introvert or an extravert?

fancy logo/writing for use in MBTI articles
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It’s one of those things I have to qualify to people. I’m not just an introvert, I’m a shy introvert. Worse, I’m a shy, socially awkward, introvert. But those things don’t necessarily go together. My boss is an off-the-charts introvert, like me, but you’d never guess it in your interactions with her, if you were looking for any level of shyness. Shy she definitely isn’t. Continue reading “Are you an introvert or an extravert?”


Socially awkward

BlackBerry Storm Smartphone
If my smartphone were really smart, it would keep me from talking. Image by liewcf via Flickr

I am socially awkward. I’m also an off-the-charts introvert. And I’m shy around new people and/or people who intimidate me (although I am noticing that more and more if I tell someone that I’m shy, they laugh, so maybe I don’t know me as well as I think I do). Continue reading “Socially awkward”


Back at the ranch, er, office

The door to the Manager's Office.
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It’s that time of year.  We get through performance reviews, and then it’s time for goal setting and promotion announcements and compensation discussions.

For better or for worse, it’s the season for lots of closed-door meetings with my boss, and as a general rule I find closed-door meetings unnerving. Continue reading “Back at the ranch, er, office”